Ngozi Ezeonu Explains Her Weight Loss..

Ngozi Ezeonu Explains Her Weight Loss..

 

Reacting to questions concerning her new look, here is what Actress Ngozi Ezeonu’s  had to say:

I am not sick, I have been battling with my weight for ten years and I have finally achieved what I want. I am not sick, it is my choice to loose some weight and I pulled it off. I feel good loosing weight, it takes a lot of discipline

• How did you pull it off?

I cut off eating a lot of things, I was addicted to coca cola, juice and I cut off all that, I also stopped eating banana altogether, it took a lot of discipline.
I stopped eating too much carbohydrates and I eat more of proteins and a lot of veggies…a lot”

• So you are not ill?

I wonder why they will think I am ill when my skin is glowing and when I feel good..when people are used to see you looking fat and they see all the fat gone, their eyes plays tricks on them”

• What is the secret of your glowing skin?

I didn’t do anything, I don’t even do facials, I don’t even have a cleanser. I just drink lots of water and dont forget I am light skinned”.

A PIECE OF MY HEART

One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley. A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart. Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said "Why, your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine." The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly, but it was full of scars. It had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing. The people stared -- how can he say his heart is more beautiful, they thought? The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine. Mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears." "Yes," said the old man, "yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared." "Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges -- giving love, is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?" The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands. The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges. The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his. -

Style Tips: Color Blocking Do's and Don'ts

Color blocking is all the rage these days, but there's a right way and a wrong way to do it.

Big, bold and beautiful color-blocking is high fashion's answer to a Mark Rothko painting. The abstract expressionist's signature "multiform" paintings celebrated contrasting and complementary colors. In fashion, designers are using bright hues taken from the opposite sides of the color wheel to create stunning ensembles. Want proof? Just peek at almost any women's magazine cover, and you're likely to see a current example of the color-blocking trend.
But even in the anything-goes world of fashion, where yesterday's must-have, cutting-edge runway styles are dismissed just a few months later, there are some basic rules to help you get the most out of color blocking. The first is to understand the color wheel and how colors match (or, perhaps more importantly, don't match).
Think of the primary colors -- blue, red, and yellow -- as three points of the clock face stationed at 12, 4 and 8 (like the three points of the Mercedes-Benz logo). Halfway between red and yellow will be orange, halfway between yellow and blue will be green, and halfway between blue and red will be purple. From there, you can fill in all the shades of the rainbow.
The next step, says The Accessorizer blogger Krisztina Williams, is to decide if you're going to select a color-block ensemble with complementary colors (choosing shades from opposite sides of the wheel), monochromatic colors (the same color in different shades), neutral colors (white, black, grays, and browns) or analogous colors (shades that neighbor each other on the color wheel). You can even pair a dazzling color (hot pink!) with a neutral shade or use a fluorescent or neon shade to perk up understated tones.
As you can see, the possibilities are almost endless, allowing you to color block your wardrobe regardless of the season, and can be done by matching separates with a skirt or pants (or shorts), or with preprinted dresses (just be sure to match your skin tone). How you layer your color blocks, though, definitely matters. Most blocks are done horizontally, which doesn't have a slimming effect. Obviously, that optical reality favors more petite or well-proportioned people and is something to keep in mind if you're conscientious about your size. Another option is to use prints that color block vertically.
According to the style mavens at Real Simple magazine, the fundamentals of figure flattery still apply. To wit, brights attract, while darks conceal. For example, they suggest a vibrant jacket and flats will ensure that no one focuses on your hips and thighs. They also suggest that three is indeed the magic number, encouraging a trio of shades to bring everything together. However, resist the temptation to go with more than four blocks. Five, say Real Simple editors, "is bordering on clown costume." If you opt for similar shades, go with the same color "intensity," pairing brights with brights, and the like.
Accessories, particularly a big belt, chunky jewelry and eye-catching shoes are an ideal way to take color blocking to another level. Bright, patterned prints, like scarves and belts, can also spruce up a color-block ensemble, provided you let the colors in the print dictate which colors you put together. Most importantly, have fun, and experiment to see what works best for you.

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Focus on filling up on healthy foods, rather than cutting things out. Picture: Thinkstock

Take a fresh approach to achieving your goals and follow these practical steps to prioritise your body.

Goal: Do 30 minutes of exercise a day
Try this: Force yourself - you’ll feel better
The idea of committing to exercise may stress you out, but it’s worth persevering. A recent study by the European Journal of Neuroscience looked at responses in rats to find out if the stress of being pushed into exercising (for example, if a doctor has ordered you to exercise) cancelled out the stress-relieving benefit of the workout. The authors concluded that it didn’t and that forced exercise could still increase stress resistance and benefit mental health. So get moving and feel better for it.
Goal: Get back into a fitness routine
Try this: do your workout at home
Sweaty bodies and a lack of confidence can conspire to make fitness classes an intimidating prospect, so do your own class at home. Jump online and check out the array of high-quality fitness programs that can get you back on track from the privacy of your own living room.
Yoga instructor to the stars Charlotte Dodson has launched charlottedodson.tv, an online yoga TV network that allows subscribers to tune into the expert guidance enjoyed by Miranda Kerr and Lara Bingle.
Meanwhile, various websites offer personalised programs with customised exercise and fitness routines, diet and nutrition plans, fitness calculators and online diaries to track your progress, as well as weekly motivational emails and videos.
If you’re watching your wallet as well as your waistline, check out the fitness section of bodyandsoul.com.au for a range of popular exercise routines that won’t cost you a cent - from seven-minute workouts and yoga sessions to Commando Steve’s Four-Week Body Blitz, all of them are designed to be followed from home.
Goal: Eat more fruit and vegetables
Try this: Go flexitarian
A "flexitarian" - or part-time vegetarian - approach increases the amount of vegetables and protein plant sources in your diet without sacrificing the health benefits of lean meat.
US dietitian Dawn Jackson Blatner, author of The Flexitarian Diet: The Mostly Vegetarian Way to Lose Weight, Be Healthier, Prevent Disease And Add Years to Your Life, encourages "progress, not perfection". It’s about enjoying a wide range of tasty vegetarian meals and focusing on filling up with healthy foods, rather than on cutting things out.
The Australian Dietary Guidelines (eatforhealth.gov.au) encourage people to include some meat-free meals in their weekly diet using legumes, eggs, nuts and seeds.
Associate professor Tim Crowe, of Deakin University’s School of Exercise and Nutrition Sciences, says: "We have the best-intentioned dietary guidelines, but research shows that only a small percentage of the population actually follow most of them. Having a more flexible approach to trying to eat healthier more often, rather than hitting your 'serves of fruit and veg' target each day isn’t only more practical, but realistic."
Goal: Hit your weight-loss target
Try this: Get some positive support
Don’t be embarrassed to share your health goals with others. "One of the best predictors of successful weight loss is getting support along the way, be it from a friend, support group or dietitian," Mr Crowe says.
Ask a friend to commit to helping you with your goal. For example, tell them you plan to go for a run on Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings and ask them to check in with you to ensure you stick to your plan.
If that’s too confronting, there are online support networks designed to keep you going when the going gets tough. Goal-setting community 43things.com has almost three million users who list goals, track their progress and post advice on how they achieved their targets, from losing weight to running 5km. Users "cheer" each other on, and you can invite others to join you

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Lagos state government rescues 25 children from alleged trafficker

Lagos state government rescues 25 children from alleged trafficker

The Lagos State Government has rescued 25 children from an alleged child trafficker in the Egbeda area of the state, according to a story by Punch

The suspected trafficker, Mrs. Rosemary Nwachukwu (pictured right), was also arrested and has been handed over to the Alausa Police Division, while the children are currently in government’s custody.

The government accused Nwachukwu of operating an illegal orphanage named, Saint Stephen Charity Foundation, on Abiodun Adebanbo Street, Egbeda.

It was gathered that officials from the Office of Youth and Social Department, led by the Director, Child Development, Mrs. Alaba Fadairo, in conjunction with personnel from the Office of Public Defender and policemen, stormed the orphanage on Saturday.

The government said findings showed that the suspect was using the orphanage as a front for another illegal business.

The Director, OPD, Mrs. Omotola Rotimi, said of the children, whose ages ranged from three months to 12 years, were victims of human trafficking.

Rotimi said, “It was discovered upon investigation that Nwachukwu trafficked 27 children and kept them in a room. We were able to rescue three infants of ages three to six months and 22 other children. Efforts are still on to locate the remaining two.”

The OPD director added that the suspect used the victims for financial gains by putting them up for adoption. She said the suspect would be charged to court after investigations had been concluded.

However, Fadairo, said, “Investigation also shows that there are no records of each child and no evidence of how the children got to her orphanage. No police or security report.”

I think I was date raped.Saw this in a popular blog,decided to share

  I think I was date raped.Saw this in a popular blog,decided to share

My fellow readers please help me because I'm so worried about this. I spent a night at a guy's house and the following morning I felt really funny all over, especially in my private area like someone who has had penetration. He's someone I met two weeks ago and was planning to date but told him I wasn't ready for sex yet. I've been having this uneasy feeling since the morning I left his house that he took advantage of me during the night without my knowledge. I keep having these images in my head. I know he gave me a lot of alcohol the previous night and he told me later he carried me to bed, though I woke up in the same clothes. I asked him if anything happened between us that night and he said no, but I'm not convinced.

This is such a serious issue. You can only sleep through rape if you were drugged, right? Is it not best for her to go to a doctor, do a test and find out if there are drugs in her system that shouldn't be there?

The Future of Africa is Bright! Meet the 12 Young African Entrepreneurs shortlisted for the $75,000 Anzisha Prize in 2

With all the bad news we are constantly bombarded with, it’s so refreshing to see that the tide is turning and the future of Africa is bright! With young and innovative minds building solutions that can change our continent.

Twelve inspirational entrepreneurs from around Africa are the finalists for the prestigious Anzisha Prize, Africa’s foremost youth entrepreneurship award. The contenders, who hail from 10 countries on the continent, stand a chance to share in over $75 000 USD in cash prizes and receive networking and learning opportunities, which is provided through a partnership between African Leadership Academy and The MasterCard Foundation.

The Anzisha Prize identifies and celebrates Africa’s young entrepreneurial leaders between the ages of 15 to 22, who have addressed challenges in their communities and launched innovative ventures. This year these range from renewable energy projects and technology solutions to agriculture and education.

For the first time in the prize’s history, South Africa has two finalists. Kolawole Olajide, 21, is the chief developer and co-founder of Funda, an award-winning online learning management system. Neftaly Malatjie, 22, has been running Diepsloot Youth Projects (DYP) for more than eight years since he founded it at the age of 14. DYP is an NGO that focuses on income generating programmes that enable young people to engage in business opportunities.

Uganda also boasts two finalists. Best Ayiorworth, 19, has empowered over 200 young women in her home district through her microfinance lending programme while Titus Mawano’s vision to get African SMMEs “in the cloud” inspired him to develop Ffene, a business management platform.

Says Chi Achebe, Anzisha Prize programme manager: “There are thousands of entrepreneurial African youth who are making a difference in their communities every day. We are honoured to be able to share a subset of their stories with the world and enable them to take their businesses to the next level. These are the African business leaders of the future and our goal is to help support their growth.”

“The Anzisha Prize illustrates the potential, ingenuity and entrepreneurial energy of young people across Africa,” said Reeta Roy, President and CEO of The MasterCard Foundation. “Each year, the Anzisha Prize finalists encourage young people from across the continent to pursue their entrepreneurial ambitions and make a difference in their communities.”

All 12 finalists will take part in the 2013 Anzisha Prize Finalist Week which takes place from Sunday, August 25, to Friday, August 30 2013. While there, they will be taught by the African Leadership Academy’s renowned Entrepreneurial Leadership faculty as well as members of the South African Chapter of Entrepreneurs Organisation.

The grand prize winner will be announced at a gala function to be held in Johannesburg, South Africa, on the evening of August 30 2013. As part of The MasterCard Foundation’s partnership with African Leadership Academ (ALA), winners will share $75,000 USD and will join the esteemed Anzisha Fellows network, composed of the 20 Anzisha Fellows to date. The winners will also be given networking and learning opportunities to take their projects to the next level.

Now in its third year, the Anzisha Prize, celebrates the initiative and innovation of youth in Africa. It identifies exceptional young entrepreneurs who are leading by example and underscores their ability to significantly shape the future of Africa.

The word ‘Anzisha’ is taken from Swahili and translates into ‘initiative’ and is a project that is gaining significant momentum in African business circles as its impact is beginning to be felt.

The 12 Anzisha 2013 finalists (in country order) are:

CAMEROON
David Morfaw
Project Title: Poult-Vault Inc.
Industry: Agriculture
Nineteen-year-old David Morfaw, from Bafut in Cameroon, has always had an entrepreneurial spirit and started his first business at the age of eight. His current venture is the poultry business Poult-Vault Inc. However, it is not simply about the bottom line but also helping the community he lives in – he currently employs six people. His business plan maximises each opportunity, whether it is selling chicks after three weeks, keeping them until they are grown at nine weeks or selling the chickens and their eggs. He also provides the waste produced to local farmers for fertile manure.

EGYPT
Khaled Shady
Project Title: Mubser
Industry: Information technology
Khaled Shady, from Shebin El-Kom, is a 21-year-old computer engineering student at Menoufoia University in Egypt. His university curriculum and technical knowledge gave him a unique opportunity to develop a system that could make a difference for the blind community. He decided to develop a cutting-edge product that could aid them in their daily lives. Shady’s invention Mubser is a wearable belt, fully equipped with Bluetooth and Microsoft Kinect, which allows the wearer to navigate safely around objects and obstacles using a system of vibrating motors. It is already making an impact and improving the quality of life for blind people.

KENYA
Barclay Okari
Project Title: Safi-pads
Industry: Consumer products
Paul Barclay is a 21-year-old entrepreneur from Kitale in Kenya. His business, Safi-pads, provides inexpensive, reusable and washable sanitary towels for women and young girls. Barclay saw that the prices of regular disposable towels were simply too expensive for families strapped for cash so he and his team developed a product that could help thousands of women while still turning a profit. Barclay has already sold more than 14 000 units of his sanitary towels and plans to expand when he can afford to pay for various mechanisms to make his production system more efficient. He currently employs 14 women but impacts so many families by providing an affordable option of a necessary hygiene product.

MALAWI
Gonjetso Chinyama
Project Title: Pakwathu
Industry: Information technology
Gonjetso Chinyama is a 21-year-old student at the University of Malawi in Blantyre where he is studying Management Information Systems with a passion for art, design, and computer programming. He joined these passions to start a creative design agency called Twenty2 Creative. From there he saw a niche in the marketplace and created the Internet real estate venture, Pakwathu. This online classifieds website enables Malawians to find property throughout the country and sift through a plethora of options based on location and price.

NIGERIA
Temitayo Olufuwa
Project Title: JobsinNigeria
Industry: Information technology
Temitayo Olufuwa, from Fadeyi, is a graduate of N.I.I.T. where he focused on computer science and software. The 21-year-old created JobsinNigeria (www.jobsinnigeria.com.ng), a web-based system that allows users to search, find and apply for new jobs at the click of the mouse or even on mobile devices. JobsinNigeria only started in 2012 and yet its impact on the Nigerian community is growing substantially with more than 200 Nigerians already finding jobs.

RWANDA
Joie Laurent Sangwa
Project Title: Domestic Biogas Use Promotion Project
Industry: Energy and waste
Nineteen-year-old Joie Sangwa from Burera in Rwanda realised that her community needed cheap and renewable energy resources. Working with a team, she discovered that human waste is a good source of energy and worked to install domestic biogas units throughout her home region. This offers a cheap, alternative energy source while helping with the environment.

SENEGAL
Donald Bambara
Project Title: Green Act
Industry: Energy and waste
Nineteen-year-old Donald Bambara grew up in Burkina Faso but after completing his high school education, moved to Dakar, Senegal, to start international management studies. Bambara quickly came to recognise a big problem in his university community – waste. He came up with a dynamic plan for how to combat the waste problem and started Green Act. This project helps separate trash from recyclable materials on campus. But his quest to clean up his campus, and campuses around him, doesn’t end there as he processes the recyclables into plastic pellets, funds cleaning services on campuses, and tries to educate students and young people in Senegal about the impact of current waste management practices and future possibilities for recycling.

SOUTH AFRICA
Neftaly Malatjie
Project Title: Diepsloot Youth Projects (DYP)
Industry: Youth development and education
Neftaly Malatjie has a passion for social entrepreneurship and a track record of commitment to community work. Since the age of 11, he has worked as a preschool teacher, peer educator, library assistant, HIV/Aids counsellor, drugs awareness and prevention teacher, learning and development advisor and afternoon care coordinator. In 2005, at the age of 14, using cash he had saved from his part-time job, he started Diepsloot Youth Projects (DYP) to make an impact in the poverty stricken Diepsloot area. Diepsloot Youth Projects focuses on income generating programmes that enable young people to engage in business opportunities. It has created employment for 16 young people.

Kolawole Olajide
Project Title: Funda
Industry: Information technology and education
Kolawole Olajide, 21, is a native of Nigeria and schooled in Cape Town, South Africa. He is the chief developer and co-founder of Funda, an online learning management system that brings together educational resources to make the lives of teachers, students and parents easier. For example, a teacher can create a website that serves as an online discussion board for students to collaborate on an assignment while students can create a class website to work on and submit assignments electronically. He is part of a five man team of young entrepreneurs who represent five different African nations – Nigeria, South Africa, Zimbabwe, Zambia and Kenya. Olajide and his team have gone on to win a number of awards, recognition from prestigious groups like the UNDP and an invitation to attend the Davos World Economic Forum.

TANZANIA
Damotila Silayo
Project Title: Jathropa Soap Production
Industry: Health and wellness
Domitila Silayo is a 21-year-old university student from Moshi, Tanzania. After visiting an agricultural festival, Silayo saw great potential for using the jathropa plant for cosmetic and medicinal uses. She began research on how to produce a soap made from the herbal plant that could heal a variety of skin problems including ringworm and dandruff. Jathropa Soap Production has gone on to help thousands of people in Tanzania fight off skin problems while still turning a healthy profit and creating employment.

UGANDA
Best Aiyorworth
Project Title: Girls’ Power Micro Lending Organisation
Industry: Microfinance and education
Best Aiyorworth is an advocate for education in her home district Nebbi in northern Uganda. The 21-year-old has started the Girls’ Power Micro Lending Organisation. Its motto is “To help a mother, is to help a girl child.” Girls’ Power is a micro lending business that supports girls through their mothers. They give women starting capital or money to boost their existing businesses so that they are able to support their daughters with school fees and scholastic materials and ensure that they get an education. She has empowered over 400 women to date.

Titus Mawano
Project Title: Ffene
Industry: Information technology
Titus Mawano, a 22-year-old from Kampala, is the brains behind Ffene, a business management platform for SMMEs in Africa who are struggling to stay organised, yet still use a loose-leaf notebook to keep record of clients and sales. Ffene’s vision is to get African businesses in the cloud. Whether it is accounting, inventory management or data keeping, Ffene is the one stop shop for a SMME’s accounting, customer and inventory management needs. With more than 400 current customers just three months after launch, Ffene is well on its way to revolutionising how SMMEs do business in Uganda and beyond.

For more on the Anzisha Prize, visit www.anzishaprize.org

Should a mother be allowed to breastfeed in a public swimming pool?

Should a mother be allowed to breastfeed in a public swimming pool?

22 year old new mum, Stephanie Wilby (pictured above), is fighting the management of a leisure centre after she was asked to stop breastfeeding her four-month-old baby in a swimming pool. The staff told her breastfeeding in the pool was indecent exposure, unhygienic and similar to a swimmer urinating in the pool and would throw her out of the leisure centre if she refused to stop

"I would have still questioned their reasons but it would not have been as inappropriate. They made a real scene. They were saying me breastfeeding was indecent exposure. But I was covered more than most of the other swimmers. One staff member also said he would stop a man urinating in the pool and that is why they did not want me breastfeeding in the water. I should be allowed to breastfeed where I want. I felt humiliated and it was very distressing. I even asked about feeding at the side of the pool but they said that was not allowed and said I should go to the changing rooms or toilet. This was the worst possible customer service I have ever come across.'

She reported the case as abuse and now the city council is investigating to see if she has a case. I support the staff on this. A public swimming pool is not an appropriate place to breastfeed a child. What do you guys think?

                      Hi everybody.I got this from a popular Nigerian blog so I decided to share it on my blog

Thank God for using u to create this forum.Reading Ms k's diary n pple's DV encounters has consoled me and given me this courage to speak out.I dnt ve friends cos my hubby doesn't encourage it feels they will tell me what to do.I started confiding in my mum lately cos I developed BP n she was worried what could have caused it n I had to open up τ̲̅ȍ  her on what I have been passing thru 4 like 9yrs now.        


   Am 29 n ma hubby is 41 n we ve bin married 4 9yrs with 3kids.4 those years he has beaten me like 3 times bt his verbal,emotional n sexual abuse is more like been beaten.initially I was scared of him cos his anger was like an attack τ̲̅ȍ  A̷̷̴̐ point that I was always struggling τ̲̅ȍ  please him.He treats me like A̷̷̴̐ housemaid instead of A̷̷̴̐ wife n I dare nt refuse him if he wants sex cos in his culture A̷̷̴̐ woman is nt supposed τ̲̅ȍ  refuse her husband sex cos he paid her dowry n if she does he will neva touch her till she appeases him which smtimes involves elders frm the family.so with that in mind I neva refused n if I gv excuse of having Stomachache inorder τ̲̅ȍ  avoid,him he will nt talk τ̲̅ȍ me 4 A̷̷̴̐ week n he will make sure that those times am miserable.any little misunderstanding we ve he will tell me the history of my family.


how am supposed τ̲̅ȍ  be grateful he married me if not I will be rottening in my fathers house by now.my aunties married late like in their late 30's,sme early 40's while  sme ve given marriage A̷̷̴̐ shot n gave up.bt I wasn't even in A̷̷̴̐ hurry τ̲̅ȍ  get married cos I wanted τ̲̅ȍ get an education hv A̷̷̴̐ job b4 doin so.Bt I was 17 wen I met my hubby n he was 28 n A̷̷̴̐ corper at that time.the relationship was jst platonic cos thr was no Canal knowledge of each other .

he was serving n was also into building contracts n was handling A̷̷̴̐ project for my aunt that was how we met.He proposed 3yrs later n I felt I had known him all my life n being my first I didn't need anyone τ̲̅ȍ  tell me he was right for me.                              


As the yrs wnt by the union turned from being enjoyed τ̲̅ȍ  being endured.The cheating was unbearable n the worst part of it he tells me his sexcapades like am A̷̷̴̐ friend.if I manage τ̲̅ȍ  ve A̷̷̴̐ friend he ends up sleeping with them τ̲̅ȍ  show me am better off without them.Things went Bad that he stopped caring for my needs,how I felt......he kind of starting moulding me the way he wants n I kind of started doin all τ̲̅ȍ  please him while I was on my own metamorphosing into what I was nt jst τ̲̅ȍ  please him.people whr seeing the changes n was complaining bt I felt they whr interfering cos τ̲̅ȍ  me I had peace.


I went frm weaves τ̲̅ȍ kehinde young-Harry cos that was his style of hw A̷̷̴̐ wife n African woman shld look like.I had τ̲̅ȍ  wash the car,iron his clothes n make sure breakfast or dinner is served b4 7am n 7pm respectively.Along the line his younger brother came τ̲̅ȍ  live with us n life became more unbearable.


The brother became A̷̷̴̐ bone of contention adding τ̲̅ȍ  what I had bin goin thru.He felt it was his brother's place so he had same right.I forgot τ̲̅ȍ  mention my hubby is from the middle-belt n am from the east.my nt understanding the customs according τ̲̅ȍ  them also became A̷̷̴̐ struggle.τ̲̅ȍ  cut the long story short I finally enterd the university n am in my 400level.I had A̷̷̴̐ diploma though bt τ̲̅ȍ me Ȋ̝̊̅† wasn't enough n I also felt if I had τ̲̅ȍ  leave the marriage I needed A̷̷̴̐ back up.And what prompted my decision after all dis years τ̲̅ȍ  move on with my life was last year he had A̷̷̴̐ contract in one of the states n at that point I was pregnant almost sme months due.Even at that point I never failed in my duties as A̷̷̴̐ wife.

Bt at the end of the 4mnths contract another lady was pregnant for him.God in his infinite mercies saw me through the whole ordeal cos after I had my baby I bleed 4 like 3months b4 I recovered.coming out from that another shocker was waiting for me.

my 18yrs old cousin who was staying with me was already sleeping with him.He denied Ȋ̝̊̅† all n claimed the girl had bin trying τ̲̅ȍ  seduce him bt she said he forced her into sleeping with him or no furthering of her education. 
      Eve sang"Love is blind bt Ȋ̝̊̅† can take over your mind"bt mine changed who ï was,Ȋ̝̊̅† drowned me.I tried keeping A̷̷̴̐ diary bt mine was read in front of the church elders who condemned the act of keeping A̷̷̴̐ diary by A̷̷̴̐ wife as against the marriage institution says God frowns at Ȋ̝̊̅† cos we re one body n nt supposed τ̲̅ȍ  keep such grudges.Guess they whr blinded by his generosity.outside he is percieved as good,generous n kind hearted man.Nobody will ever biliv me if they heard the other part of his life or what I ve bin thru with him.

He takes care of his kids n family well bt me I always hear"u re A̷̷̴̐ nobody"u can't do without me"No man wȊ̝̊̅ℓℓ look at u after 3kids"u shld be grateful I married u if nt u for Dεγ Dεγ look 4 husband men for don fuck u tire".these days when he starts I help him complete the rest cos Ȋ̝̊̅† has become A̷̷̴̐ norm.someone told me that if he is taking care of the kids I shld jst endure all I ve been thru n stay since I will soon be out of school,get A̷̷̴̐ job n start taking care of my needs.Another said I jst also have an affair τ̲̅ȍ  pay him back bt I neva considered that as an option.                   

  My question now is getting out of school n having A̷̷̴̐ job is Ȋ̝̊̅† enough reason τ̲̅ȍ  stay considering all I have been through.my mum thinks its beta than τ̲̅ȍ  start taking anti-retro viral drugs at an early age.what do your readers think?                                      
     Thank u Stella for this opportunity τ̲̅ȍ  use your blog τ̲̅ȍ  seek advice from your readers n Ƭћǟπƙs for agreeing τ̲̅ȍ  publish this am utmost grateful.''

5 HABITS OF A CONFIDENT WOMAN

    

She walks into a room and people take notice.  They are intrigued, not necessarily because of her physical attributes, but instead by her self-assurance. She has an aura about her that screams ‘if you don’t know me honey, you should’…

There’s a saying that, “some girls are born winners.” I beg to differ; some women simply position themselves to win. So what separates the woman who wins and the one who doesn’t? A large part of it has to do with confidence; and women who have it know exactly what I mean.

So what are the characteristics of a confident woman? While they vary, most confident women possess similar traits. If you don’t have them, get them. There is nothing wrong with faking it until you make it. And at the risk of sounding cliché, it really is about unleashing the power that’s already inside of you.

But if that’s not enough to convince you, confidence really is Hot and people gravitate towards confident people. With a little extra boost of confidence, watch how many new people you meet and even more opportunities.

1. Define Yourself

Don’t let others determine how you feel about yourself nor allow society to tell you what you can and cannot do. Tap into your inner voice and write your own rules for your life. If you’re writing your own rules you don’t have to worry about succumbing to someone else’s.

2. Know Your Strengths & Use Them

Make a list of all the things that you’re good at or the characteristics that you love about yourself. Then make sure you’re not letting your skills go to waste by actually using them.  And display the characteristics you love about yourself as often as you can. If you’re funny, use it to your advantage.

3. Always Dress the Part

So you just don’t feel like putting a 100% into your appearance? I completely understand. We all have those days when we want to just roll out of bed and head straight to work, wild hair and all. But remember confidence is never tacky. I would love to believe that people don’t care about your outer appearance, but that is far from the truth. The reality is people judge you based on what you’re wearing. So always ask yourself ‘what message am I trying to convey with my attire?’

4. Take Risks & Take Action

The only thing that comes to someone who stays in their comfort zone is what they already have. A confident woman wants the most out of life and pushes herself to be the best she can be. The only way to do this is to step out of your comfort zone and into something new.

5. Use Positive Affirmations

From the zillion twitter quotes to the sayings we’ve heard since we were kids, everyone loves to here a good quote for affirmation. And why not? Affirmations can help replace negative thoughts. Besides telling yourself how fabulous you are everyday, find affirmations that relate to some of your confidence issues. If you can’t find them, make up your own. The key is to zap a negative thought by replacing it with something positive.

CELEBRATING ACADEMIC EXCELLENCE

21 Year-Old Best Graduating Student of Covenant University Michael Eromhonsele speaks on his Undergraduate Experience & His Journey to the Top!

Posted on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013 at 10:00 AM

By Adeola Adeyemo

At the recent graduating ceremony of Covenant University (CU) Ota, 21 year-old Michael Eromhonselestood proud among 1,465 other graduates to clinch the Best Graduating Student Award. His achievement caused quite a sensation on the online media sphere with reports that he  had to make some sacrifices such as not having a girlfriend or attending parties to achieve this feat.

In this exclusive interview with Adeola Adeyemo, Michael corrects some of the wrong media reports about him. He also speaks on his undergraduate experience and how he was able to make such an impressive grade. His story is an interesting one. 

Congratulations on your achievement. How does it feel, coming tops among 1,465 other undergraduates?
I feel very privileged and favoured. My heart is full of praise to God.

Tell me about your early days in the University. What was your experience like when you first gained admission into CU?
I spent my first two weeks getting used to the school rules and the environment. I remember getting lost the first time I went to Joseph Hall to see a family friend. It was during this period I became a course representative, was baptized in the Holy Spirit and joined communion service unit of the school’s chaplaincy. The decisions I made during these two weeks shaped my destiny in Covenant University.

Why did you decide to study Civil Engineering?
During my secondary education I had a strong passion for statics and structural mechanics. I also loved further mathematics. These were the reasons why I chose to study civil engineering.

For many students, Engineering and Mathematics are tough courses. How were you able to cope with the demands of studying such courses in your department?
When you are doing something you love, you will see challenges as stepping stones for success. My mindset helped me overcome the challenges like they never existed.

Tell me about your educational journey from Primary School to this point and how you fared in your classes.
During my primary education at UNIBEN Staff School, I was usually among the top three in my class. I was 10 when I got into Junior Secondary School at UNIBEN Demonstration Secondary School and I was a little above average. It was during my senior secondary education at Greater Tomorrow Secondary School that I began to take academics seriously. After the first year of my senior secondary education, I finished as the best in my class (SS1B) and won an award in Mathematics. At the end of my second year, I was the 2nd best in the SS2 class and won a STAN award in science. I finished my secondary education as the best graduating student and as a finalist in the Maltina National Reading competition and got into the University at 16.

Was CU your first choice or did you just find yourself there by chance?
Covenant University wasn’t my first choice. My first choice was UNIBEN but my dad and his friend convinced me to go there. I will be forever grateful to them.

Many people are of the opinion that it is very easy to gain admission into Private Universities in Nigeria as long as one can afford the school fees, and thus, very easy to pass courses there. Is this true?
Well, in Covenant University, you have to pass an aptitude test and an interview to get in. Every year over 10000 students apply but only about 2000 are taken. So it is not “very easy” to get in. Students excel easily in a good learning environment which Covenant University and some other private universities provide.

How well can a CU graduate compete with any graduate from, let’s say, a Federal University in Nigeria?
A Covenant University graduate will more often than not perform better than graduates from other universities because he/she has undergone spiritual, moral and academic training.

To achieve a CGPA of 4.92, you must have excelled in all your courses. What was the lowest grade you ever had in the University and what course was it?
My lowest grade was a “C” in EDS 521. EDS stands for Entrepreneurial Development Studies. I finished with a CGPA of 4.93 not 4.92.

You are a graduate at age 20. This means you must have been one of the youngest in your classes while growing up. Did this affect you in any way?
It didn’t affect me. Maturity is not in how “old” but how “wise”. I am actually 21 years old not 20.

What sacrifices did you have to make to achieve a CGPA of 4.93?
I am a lover of video games and soccer but when I was in school I only watched six football matches and I hardly played games.

Looking back at your life at the University, is there anything you wish you had done differently?
I wish I had asked out a friend I liked in 300 Level before she was taken.

Punch reported that you said you never had a girlfriend while in school. Now that you are through with your undergraduate studies, are you ready to start dating?
Contrary to what Punch Newspaper reported, I dated someone when I was in 200 level. I have always been ready for a relationship.

So tell me, what happened to the relationship? Why did you decide to end it?
The girl got tired of the relationship because I wasn’t spending enough time with her. She ended it.

What kind of girl would you be attracted to?
Well, I would prefer to keep that to myself.

What about the Punch report that stated you never attended parties. Is that also true?
Yes I didn’t attend any parties.

Do you feel bad that you had to sacrifice your relationship and social life for your academic achievement?
No I don’t. If I had another opportunity I would do the same thing.

At what point did you know you were going to be the best graduating student this year?
It was just two days before the convocation ceremony. At the beginning of the last semester, another student Aiwa and I were on a CGPA of 4.93. Also in my last result, I had my first “C” in the University so I wasn’t expecting to be the best. I felt sorry for her because the gap was just 0.001. It couldn’t have been closer.

What is your study style like? Are you the kind of person who spends long hours reading or did it take you just a short time to understand your courses?
I am blessed with quick understanding. I understood 90 percent of my courses while the lecturers taught. I spent little time reading but a lot of time teaching people. During my 100 level I was studying for 2-3 hours per day but as I began to go higher I got involved with a lot of leadership positions. From my 200 level, I have been reading for an average of 3-4 hours per week. As at last semester, I observed that my reading time was less than 2 hours per week because of my project work. I always studied in my room. I only went to study in the library on four occasions. In contrast, I spent an average of 8 hours per week teaching people throughout my stay in Covenant University.

Who were the people that inspired and supported you academically and otherwise throughout your stay in the University?
My major source of inspiration is God. Dr David Oyedepo has been a mentor and a father. Pastor Ubong Ntia, Pastor Victor Oluwadamilare, Mr. Victor Ubong and many others have inspired me. My course mates, close friends and fellow communion stewards have also inspired me.

What is the CU student experience like? Many think it is very dull and conservative. Is this true?
Covenant University is unique. We have our own definition of “fun”. The Covenant University experience is very far from being dull. The creativity and ingenuity of the people connected to the institution makes the experience very interesting. There are so many social and sporting events in the school’s calendar and these events are organized by students. The most popular events are the Redefinition Fashion Show and the Covenant University Football League.

In the past few months, CU has been in the news for issues such as expulsion and students complaints over strict rules. How do you feel about this?
I have no comment on it.

From an ex-student’s point of view, were the school rules too strict?
No, they weren’t. It just takes the first semester to get used to them.

What are your future aspirations, both academically and professionally?
Academically, I want to obtain a masters degree and probably a PhD in Structural Engineering. Professionally, I want to become one of the leading Structural Engineering consultants in the world.

What else are you passionate about apart from your academic interests?
I am passionate about Nigeria and Africa. I strongly believe that in the next 20 years Nigeria will become the giant of Africa again. I am eager to play my part in achieving this.

For someone wishing to achieve a feat such as yours, what would be your advice to the person?
Spirituality, Possibility Mentality, Capacity Building, Integrity, Responsibility, Diligence, and Sacrifice have to be your core values.

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